You have been together for a long time. Sexual relationships in the classical manifestation no longer bring the former pleasure. More and more often there is a desire to try something new, to return to the former passion, to learn the unknown. One such method – is BDSM . But in each case it is necessary to adhere to certain conditions and norms of behavior so as not to harm your partner and yourself. Such pleasure should be safe, so we memorize the basic rules.
Observe safety measures
Remember, violence and BDSM play are two different things. First of all, this entertainment should not harm your health. Everything should happen by mutual agreement, with the aim of getting pleasure. It is imperative to observe hygiene standards. To avoid unpleasant moments, first agree on what is possible and what is not, and only then start experimenting.
Communicate
You should definitely choose a “stop word” that will signal your partner to stop. And this is not a joke. During BDSM play, pleas and requests to stop an action may be misunderstood. In order to avoid embarrassing situations and misunderstandings, you need to control your actions and watch the reaction of your partner.
Get ready
Consider in advance where and how the experiment will take place. If you do not live alone, it is better to try to find a secluded place so that you will not be disturbed. BDSM involves the use of a variety of auxiliary instruments, which must be sterile and serviceable. If you plan to use handcuffs and other items with locks, be sure to stock up on extra sets of keys.
Eliminate alcohol
Although many experts do not prohibit skipping a glass of another wine for more vivid sensations before intimacy, in this case it is better to refrain from intoxicating drinks. Drinking alcohol dulls the sense of reality and reduces pain. And for an inexperienced person, this can threaten the loss of control over what is happening and harm the health of the partner.
Use accessories
Sexual attraction and desire can be stimulated not only by strong drinks. Try accessories in your game. Moreover, the whip and handcuffs can be easily replaced with a belt and a scarf. To get the first experience, it is not necessary to buy half of the sex shop : you may not need it in the future. Now that you have familiarized yourself with the rules for beginners, you can safely proceed to practice. And may your first experience in this direction bring a lot of pleasure and a storm of lasting impressions.