How to prolong intercourse and not finish for a long time

Men have always been interested in the question – how to prolong sexual intercourse. The ancient treatise Kama Sutra enjoys unflagging popularity. The book describes postures, exercises to prolong sex, you can learn to control ejaculation. There are more modern methods for solving these problems at home. 

You can read in various sources that a short intimacy lasts less than ten minutes. However, sex therapists cite different numbers. According to doctors, the average sexual intercourse lasts from 2-3 to 10 minutes. The short one is less than 2 minutes.

Almost 50% of men have experienced early ejaculation at some point in their lives, and some have it on a regular basis.

Reasons for too short intercourse

  1. Psycho-emotional problems.
  2. Physical or physiological reasons.
  3. Diseases of the reproductive system.

We will not consider pathology and diseases; this requires an appointment with a doctor, examination, and the appointment of complex therapy.

Common causes

  • Young age

When a man is just starting to have sex, due to strong overexcitation, ejaculation and orgasm quickly occur, sometimes even before the onset of coitus. By the age of 25 or even earlier, with a regular sex life, everything is normalized, the time of intimacy increases.

  • Prolonged abstinence. Unusual conditions for intimacy, a new partner.
  • Stress, emotional overexcitement. With the improvement of the psycho-emotional background, everything will return to normal.
  • Taking certain medications. Avitaminosis.
  • A common cause is increased sensitivity (sensitivity) of the glans (penis), congenital or acquired.

Congenital sensitivity can be distinguished by a number of signs:  

  • the man suffered from early ejaculation during the entire period of his intimate life;
  • the duration of intercourse is always the same;
  • an increase in the time of coitus is influenced by the use of a condom, the intake of alcohol, and other means.

Acquired sensitivity appeared after illness, injury, before that everything was normal. 

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In order not to provoke the emergence of a mental attitude to failure, do not panic. We need to calm down, try to take some measures.

  • If you know that your penis has a very sensitive head, try using a condom or even both. The contraceptive significantly reduces sensitivity and you can prolong the sexual intercourse.
  • There are exercises for training ejaculation control.
  • There are gels, ointments, spray, lubricants that reduce the sensitivity of the glans penis.
  • Try poses, techniques, and adaptations to prolong the pleasure.
  • Traditional methods, herbal medicine.
  • Some men, with increased sensitivity of the head of the penis, turn to the surgeon for circumcision (circumcision). After circumcision of the foreskin, the head is exposed, due to constant contact with clothing, friction loses sensitivity, this allows you to prolong sexual intercourse several times. However, this is an extreme measure, there are more gentle methods.

PDE-5 inhibitors

Medicinal preparations for potency much. Perhaps the most popular are phosphodiesterase (PDE-5) inhibitors. They increase potency by almost 100%, regardless of the cause and severity.  

  1.  Sildenafil (Viagra) . Produced in 1996, the longest on the market, which means it has been studied more. Take once, an hour before intimacy.
  2.  Vardenafil (Levitra). Not for daily use. It works a little faster than Viagra. Take 30 minutes before intimacy. 
  3.  Tadalafil (Cialis). In 2008. a drug with a reduced dosage appeared. It can be used daily, so you don’t need to plan ahead for sex. It works longer than all drugs. 
  4.  Udenafil. Take before intimacy 30 – 60 minutes in advance. 
  5.  Avanafil. Take 15-20 minutes. 

The principle of action of drugs in this group is based on increasing blood flow to the pelvic organs and penis, relaxing the corpora cavernosa, filling them with blood, which leads to an erection. The drugs have no effect on other organs.

PDE inhibitors are not aphrodisiacs, they only act when a man is sexually aroused. The drugs themselves do not increase libido (attraction), they do not affect testosterone production or sperm quality.

The effect of PDE inhibitors for prolonging the time of intercourse is difficult to consider sufficient.

  1. However, many men, having gained self-confidence, are capable of a quick repetition of an erection, which compensates for the quality of intimacy.
  2. To extend the time interval from the onset of coitus to ejaculation, a combination of PDE inhibitor drugs and an SSRI (serotonin reuptake inhibitor) is considered successful. In this case, there is an interaction of funds.
  3. A representative of the SSRI Dapoxetine acts on the nerve centers responsible for the onset of ejaculation and is able to prolong the intimate act. It can be drunk separately if there is no erectile dysfunction.

A number of combined drugs with Dapoxetine and a PDE inhibitor have appeared:

  • Super P-Force ;
  • Super Zhewitra ;
  • Super Tadarise .

Ease of use – regardless of food or alcohol. They work for several hours, from 4 and longer.

There are several “buts”:

  • All these medicines are taken according to the instructions, taking into account contraindications.
  • The group of inhibitors has a large list of side effects.
  • If you have health problems, be careful, they should not be taken by people with heart disease, those who are prohibited from physical activity.

These are serious medications that cannot be prescribed to oneself without knowing about indolent or chronic diseases. A consultation with a doctor is necessary.

There are other methods and means to prolong sex. They do not require complex chemistry.

Men’s dietary supplements for potency and prolongation of intimacy

As well as medicines, there are a lot of dietary supplements . They have a natural composition, there are practically no contraindications. They act in a comprehensive manner on the entire body.  

One of the new generation products – capsules ” Effex-Neuro “, Evalar. They work in several directions at once:

  • reduce nervous overexcitement during an intimate meeting, delaying ejaculation;
  • have an anti-stress effect, improve well-being, mood;
  • increase libido, enhance spermogenesis.

As part of the dietary supplement “Effex-Neuro” mutually reinforcing components:

  • amino acids (L-arginine – stimulates male sexual activity, L-tryptophan – improves mood due to the production of serotonin, L-glutamine – regulates excitation and inhibition of the nervous system);
  • Vitamins B3, B6;
  • Horny Goat Weed, tones up, strengthens;
  • Zinc is important for the male reproductive system and increases sperm production and fertility.

Intimate cosmetics – prolonging creams or gels

Not everyone wants to take medication. A man can choose external remedies. If everything is fine with an erection, and the problem is only with premature ejaculation, try to reduce the sensitivity of intimate gels.

Such funds are applied to the skin of the penis 5-15 minutes before the start. They do not enter the bloodstream, do not have a systemic effect on the body. This is a big plus. But there are also disadvantages:

  • It is not always possible to use condoms due to damage from some creams.
  • Allergy or irritation is possible on the components of gels or creams.
  • The “sliding effect” increases, which is not to everyone’s liking.
  • Some products are recommended to be washed off as soon as their “freezing” effect appears.

Here are some popular names:

  • Rhino prolonging cream ; 
  • Gel Bull Power Delay Gel 
  • Contex Long Love lubricating gel . 

Recently, Delay Gel , developed in the Netherlands, has been gaining popularity . Its composition does not destroy the latex of the condom, you can use two products at once. Active substances: laureth-9, reduces the sensitivity of receptors, herbal components – mint leaf extract, extracts from hops and oat oil. 

Sprays with lidocaine

Also referred to as external agents. Lidocaine is an anesthetic known to most in dentistry, where it is used for pain relief and “tooth freezing”. As in the case of creams, spray is applied immediately before intimacy, in 5-15 minutes. It works for about an hour.

You can buy topical products at adult stores. You will not find them in pharmaceutical pharmacies, as they are not drugs.

The most common sprays

  • Stud 5000 ;
  • Peineili ;
  • Harmony Control ;
  • LS Marafon (Lovespray Marafon). 

Prolonging lubricants (lubricants) with anesthetic

Lubricants are needed to increase glide and prevent scuffs and ease penetration. Prolonging lubricants prolong the time of coitus. They include the anesthetic lidocaine or benzocaine.

Condoms with anesthetic

They reduce the sensitivity of the penis, often resolve the issue of rapid ejaculation. The maximum effect of anesthesia is 15-20 minutes, then it gradually subsides.

Advantages and disadvantages:

  • cause burning or tingling of the skin (tolerable);
  • there may be allergies or local irritation;
  • not suitable for oral sex;
  • do not affect internal organs, have a minimum of contraindications;
  • no addiction.

Cock ring

  • This is a special device. The principle of operation is simple – an obstacle to the outflow of blood is created, an erection is enhanced, coitus is prolonged by 30-40%. 

The ring will not work for men with a complete lack of erection !  


  • Age-related weakening of potency.
  • Psychological weakening of potency.
  • Diseases, injuries, operations due to which the quality of erection decreases. Low testosterone levels.
  • No drug effect.

To choose the right ring, you need to know the exact diameter of the penis. They put the ring on the base of the penis, but you can fix it directly under the head or in the middle of the trunk – as you like.

Rings are:

  • Rubber, silicone, jelly. They are the same size, stretch to the desired size. Short-lived (depends on quality). Glide well over the body, so it’s easy to put on or take off. Jellies are usually disposable.
  • Leather. It’s not a ring, but adjustable straps to create the pressure you need.
  • Metal or plastic. For an amateur, heavy, dense. It is necessary to know the size of the diameter of the penis up to a millimeter, otherwise there will be difficulties with putting on and taking off. You can even end up in the hospital with a swollen penis.

There are many more modifications of such rings. Difference in texture, shape, can be double, triple – for the scrotum and testicles, with vibration. All are sold in sex shops.

Poses that will help

Use different postures to control ejaculation and, if possible, push it back. First of all, those where the body is not tense. Keep your shoulders, arms, legs and pelvic muscles as relaxed as possible. The most successful in this regard is lying on your back, the body experiences a minimum of stress.

Choose positions where body contact is minimal. With such intercourse, overexcitement comes later, you can stop in time, delay the activity.

  • The “officer” pose is good. The partner lies on her back, and her legs are thrown over the shoulders of the man.
  • Doggy style. A man behind a woman on all fours.

Techniques and exercises

If you do special exercises, you can learn to delay ejaculation, prolong intercourse, or have an orgasm without ejaculation.

Stop-start technique by American urologist Simons

  • The essence of the workout is to keep ejaculating, reaching the peak of arousal. What do we have to do? Stimulate the penis with your hand when you feel maximum arousal, stop, rest, then continue. Achieve three sets of no ejaculation.
  • Use a lubricant to complicate it. The workout consists of three sets of 15 minutes each. When you learn, continue to train, but without a complete stop, slowing down the pace. When you have mastered this stage, move on to training during sex.
  • For practicing the Stop-Start technique, the woman on top pose is ideal. Control the process by holding your partner’s hips.

Masters and Johnson technique

The technique teaches control over your body.

  • First, a man learns to recognize the onset of the moment of ejaculation. When he can determine this period, one should try to extinguish the excitement.
  • If it doesn’t work, ask your partner for help. She should squeeze the head of the penis (or its base) with her fingers, thereby muffling the urge to ejaculate.
  • When the excitement fades out a little, the frictions continue.
  • After a week of training, the man himself will learn to control the process.

Testicles Down Technique

Before ejaculation, the testicles are pulled closer to the body. If you hold them, do not allow them to pull up, ejaculation does not occur completely. Thus, you can delay her.

Technique seven-nine

It’s simple – 7 fast frictions, 9 slow ones. It is so comfortable for your partner, and you can control your finish.

How Arnold Kegel can help

  • The main effect of Kegel training is to strengthen potency and increase the time of intimacy, but this is not the only result. The blood circulation in the small pelvis improves, the phenomena of stagnation disappear. The hormonal background is stabilized. Brighter and longer orgasm. 
  • While urinating with muscle tension, delay the process for a few seconds, relax the muscles. Without urinating, tense / relax your groin muscles, change the pace and strength of the contraction. Start with slow contractions, gradually speeding up the muscles.
  • Classes train the pubic-coccygeal muscle well. Tighten it during an impending eruption.

Ways that do not require training and preparation

Slow penetration

Start with slow back and forth movements, a little deeper each time. Each movement is not approximately 3 seconds long. Then you can speed up, but, when orgasm approaches, slow down the pace and depth of penetration again.

How do you breathe?

If you feel the approach of fireworks, and it is a little out of time, pause, take a very deep, slow breath. You can take deep breaths several times. This will relax you a little.

Use distraction techniques

  • Think about something else – for example, have you refueled your car
  • Switch your gaze to the weather outside the window, the wallpaper, the shelf with books. Yes, whatever.
  • Pinch yourself, ask your woman to bite your ear. If she runs her nails along the inner surface of your thigh, closer to your groin, it will knock down arousal.

Squeeze your dick

Something like a cock ring, only with your hands. You can use the hands of a woman. Before the finish, ask her to squeeze the penis at the base with two fingers.

Pause technique

  • During frictions, when the peak wave of sensations comes, stop and remove the penis. Wait for the wave to fade away. You can lie on your back, calm down, catch your breath. However, your lady may not like this method.
  • You will get the same effect when you change the pose. Your partner will be happy with the variety, and you will get a little respite.


If your sex life is not as bright as you want, or you are too worried before a date, please yourself, relieve the accumulated tension. You will see – your meeting will be much calmer, you will be able to control yourself.

Folk recipes

  • Hop infusion. Pour 2 tablespoons of cones with boiling water for two hours, filter. The resulting infusion is diluted with half boiled water and half a glass is taken before sex. Hops soothes, relaxes the nervous system and thus prolongs intimacy.
  • Infusion of 1 tsp of oak bark for 1 glass of boiling water. Drink 1/3 cup each. three times a day, a week. Thiamine will slow down the nerve endings of the penis.
  • Peppermint juice is used externally to lubricate the penis, it cools the head of the penis and prolongs sex.

What not to do

  • Lubricate the head with iodine.

You won’t have any sex at all because you will get burned.

  • Take antidepressants and tranquilizers.

Many of these remedies have a stupefying, inhibitory effect. This is not what is needed to prolong intercourse. Plus, there are many side effects.

Products for good potency

It is useful to add to food from time to time:

  1. Celery juice. Freshly squeezed juice is drunk during the day in combination with a protein diet.
  2. Peanuts and other nuts. They eat 100 grams 12 hours before intimacy.
  3. Pumpkin seeds with honey. Grind 300g. pumpkin seed kernels (sold in pharmacies), add a tablespoon of honey, mix. Take 1 teaspoon in the morning before breakfast.


If you have “misfires” in bed, do not get upset and succumb to depression. Enlist the support of your partner, wife, and share your difficulties. Together it will be easier to prolong a short sexual intercourse, establish a high-quality intimate life, and reach a new level of sexual pleasure.

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